If I was a good father, I would show my children a husband who was crazy in love with their mother. To teach his boys to honor women as the corner stone to their life on this planet. For boys to learn to love and respect women through the love and respect their dad gives to their mom. If I was a good father I would give my children the gift of a loving relationship with their mother so that in our strong roots they can hold on in their tough times and feel the love and compassion we have for them. If I was a good father my daughters would see me listening to their mom, because I adore her mind as well as her body. So that my daughters understand that men need women far more than women need men. When they look for husbands, they want a man who honors and loves their perspective as much as their own, then they can decide together what is best for their family and not themselves. If I was a good father, I would raise my children to understand that this planet is sacred to our survival. That if you harm the earth, you hurt yourself. I would teach them that every human being has the to right to everything they have and that it is our demand for psychological security that has invented countries, religion and politics so that they can see that these are evil and invented by thinking. These are the things that divide people, thinking outside of technical matters, lead to conflict, war and are never a means to peace. If I was a good father, I would teach my children that the nature of parenting is to create a great relationship with their children, so their children want them in their lives and want to be around them. That when their life falls apart, and it will they can come home and talk things over, be listened to and not be told how to live their life. If I was a good father, I would honor their spouses and friends. I would never think I know how they should parent their children or who they should befriend and trust. I would teach them to look for the good in people and realize that we are only human. To look through their own eyes, to see in people and determine for themselves who they want and need in their life! If I was a good father, I would nurture their gifts and talents without identifying with what they achieve or not achieve. If I was a good father, I would raise my children to give more than they take. To make sure I was unselfish with my time and there for them in big and little moments. If I was a good father, I would do my best to make them aware of the destructive societal imposed attitude that they have to become something better than what creation already gave them. That life is an art that demands freedom from the known, intelligence not found in thinking and knowledge.
If I loved my children, I would expose them to all the lies and deceptions human beings have invented. To not create a God and rest in that comfort that will eventually fall apart when there’s a crisis and that the universe isn’t full of punishment and rewards when shit happens to us or someone we love and care about.
If I was a good father, I would teach my children that what they do in the company of their own heart moves them to the inspiration of love and compassion, or further away.
If I was a good father, I would teach my children that there is no authority for human psychological evolution but love and compassion, it breaks out when they empty their hearts of their self-interest.
If only I could be a good father, I would teach my children that having their being in nothingness can’t be reached or meditated into. As the meditator trying to get out of self is strengthening self through practiced
If only I could be a good father by remaining with the fact that fatherhood is choiceless, a privilege and a duty of loves high call.
If only I could be a good father by exposing my weaknesses, shortcomings, and failures to show them I’m still standing ready for the next challenge.